Can We Still be Friends?

If I vote for Donald Trump, can we still be friends?

To my brothers and sisters in Christ, if I vote for Trump, will you still love me, claim me, your-vote-countsown me as one of your own in the family of faith?

Or, if I sit out this election for lack of a candidate I can support with a clear conscience, or if I vote for a non-winnable third party candidate, will you think less of me?

Some good Christians (see Russell Moore’s blog) infer that a Christian can’t, or shouldn’t vote for the Donald.  Some infer that to do so is sin, or at least, shows an utter lack of intellectual acumen, or spiritual depth or simple perception.

Others equally well intentioned opine that not to vote for Trump is irresponsible because the net effect is to hand the presidency to the liberal Democratic candidate.  And still others say, vote for the best of the bad candidates to fulfill your God-given responsibility,
trusting that God will sovereignly use our means for His ends.

Most of those I’ve read along the “never Trump” lines aren’t saying Christians shouldn’t vote.  Rather, they recommend making what I’ll call a “protest vote” by voting for a third party candidate, a candidate whom they acknowledge can’t win.  Such votes would ostensibly “send a message” to party bigwigs and candidates alike that conscientious voters refuse to condone or associate with the personal sins or the deficient policies of a candidate through their vote.

This strategy is tactical and tends to assume that the outcome of conscientious objectors voting third party will be to help the liberal Democrat win this presidential election.  In this case, guaranteeing the continuing liberal, and now “progressive” Democratic policies for at least four more years is understood to serve a greater good.  That greater good includes, at least, a clear conscience for the objectors, and may prove to have other, long term, political benefits.

But with the departure of any other real Republican option this week there’s also more buzz from this camp about the possibility of laying the groundwork for a new, third party that could have a real chance in upcoming elections.

We don’t have to agree with this tactic to believe those who hold this opinion are sincere. We needn’t call their intelligence into question, or their faith.

But can protest voters embrace Trump voting friends and family should they pursue a different strategy?   Can a vote for Trump be seen as legitimate, intelligent, faithful participation in the public arena?

I believe protest-voters, non-voters, and Trump voters all want the same thing— the best possible outcome and good governance, though they disagree on the best way forward with the political arena as it stands today.

The argument for the possibility of voting for Trump goes like this:

  • Mrs. Clinton’s politics and personal ambitions are well known; she’s pro-death (unfettered abortions), pro-big government, pro-increased taxes, pro-more liberal Supreme Court justices, etc.  In other words, if Clinton wins the White House we know what to expect— more government and less liberty.
  • Mr. Trump may be a liar, an adulterer, and a narcissist, let’s assume he’s all those, and more, but he gives a nod, at least, to some conservative ideals.  If Trump were elected President there’s the chance that some helpful, conservative positions would succeed and that some conservative justices would join the Supreme Court.DonaldTrum Caricature
  • Because our Courts generally, and the Supreme Court particularly, have, without much objection, seized levels of power the Founders never intended, the President has far reaching, generation-forming influence simply by who he appoints to the Courts.  One or two new conservative justices could make the difference in conservative causes regarding abortion and Christian liberties.  These two areas alone represent the difference between the possibility of life and liberty for untold numbers of unborn babies, businesses and households.

In other words, Mrs. Clinton’s win represents a very clear and negative path forward, while a Trump win offers the possibility of some gains.

The argument for not voting, or for voting for a third party candidate is along these lines:

  • Trump is such a liar that any confidence in his pursuing conservative ideals or conservative justices is a false hope.
  • Trump is so immoral that to vote for him is to become complicit with his personal sins.
  • Trump is behind in all polls against Clinton and can’t win the general election, therefore conservative voters should signal future presidential candidates that they’ll need at least a modicum of personal integrity and real, conservative bona fides should they hope for votes adequate to succeed to the White House.

In other words, Trump has no real chance of winning the White House, and even if he did, there’s no reason to think he’d be any better than Mrs. Clinton.

That we may be reduced to Mrs. Clinton or Mr. Trump in our real choice for president is in itself an indictment on our country.  If God is giving this country its due in choosing Hillary-Clinton-As-Queen-Elzabethbetween a disingenuous, death-dealing, self-serving Democrat and a verbose, narcissistic, and philandering Republican for our highest office, the Church should be crying out for repentance and the mercy of God in Christ.  Indeed, our prayers are that God will give this beloved land at least one last hurrah in a national turning to God and life as He did Israel under their last good king, Josiah.

The kingdoms of this world have not yet become the Kingdom of our God and His Christ and every vote in every political race is always about the best option among a deficient, imperfect, and sinful field.   But the Christian always has room for hope because we know that it’s ultimately God appointing leaders, through a variety of means.  And we also know that our sovereign, loving, involved Father is working all things after the counsels of His own benevolent will.

To my brothers and sisters in faith:

  • If Christians can’t claim and love each other while making different political decisions in the most contorted of elections, what are we saying the foundation of our relationship really is?
  • If we who share the one body and Spirit, the one Lord and one faith, and the one baptism and Father, can’t speak civilly to each other over worldly politics, not to mention respectfully and lovingly, what are we saying about our bonds within God’s family?
  • Do our words and emotions link us more closely to those in a temporary earthly party or political race, than to those who share in the blood of the Lamb?

If I vote for Trump, or for a third party candidate, or stay home entirely, will you still love me; or at least, can we still be friends?



6 thoughts on “Can We Still be Friends?

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  1. I noticed you left Clinton out, “can we still be friends if I vote for her?” Is it a sin to vote for Hillary or for even that matter Bernie? All in all great stuff Mikeß

    1. Steve, Christian blogs, magazines, and communication generally don’t include the two Democratic candidates as voting options since they actively promote and financially support killing unborn children via abortion. If my Christian friends were advocating for such candidates I’d want to have a friendly chat to see how they can defend such support. Michael Goff advocates voting no matter who the candidates are at the blog linked above.

      1. Good point. I think the “ickiness” of this all, and why many are in such a conundrum over who to vote for, is that Trump’s own statements haven’t been incredibly pro-life at times. Whether it’s his comments that the families of jihadist terrorists should be killed or the comment that his pro-choice sister “would make a phenomenal supreme court justice.” I think that is why many, conservatives are considering a vote for a third-party in November. They see a candidate at times pandering for pro-life votes but in reality equally values a culture of death – truly reprehensible. As you mentioned, prayer and repentance are where we should be as Christians in a nation such as this. Lord have mercy; for the sake of our children.

      2. Steve, yes to all with this qualifier: the nod towards Trump is the hope/chance that he would still appoint “conservative” justices to the Supreme, and other, Courts. It’s a given that the Democratic candidates will appoint pro death justices; Trump is a wild card who might appoint pro life justices. Mike

  2. Thanks for these thoughtful words. These are indeed painful times, and I feel that even the choice we are left in is, perhaps in some ways, a judgement in itself (“is this the only choice I get?!”). Whatever the result of election day is, we will need to go on, be faithful and obedient and live in fellowship with the ones He has called us with. Great point.

  3. “That we may be reduced to Mrs. Clinton or Mr. Trump in our real choice for president is in itself an indictment on our country.”
    I couldn’t agree more… While disheartened by what appears to be an accelerated moral decline, not only in America, but in the entire world, the obvious loss of what I once perceived our country to be has forced my wandering eyes to look where they should have been looking all along. Jesus is where my life, hope, and help comes from. Colossians 3:1-4

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